Adulting + making new friends is rather interesting. I’m still contemplating if I’m on the #TeamNoNewFriends side or not. Making new friends as a kid was so EASY! At times it looked a lot like this…. “I have a yellow crayon, you have an orange one… we both have crayons… want to be friends?” As a mid 30’s sexy beast of a woman, I would like to speak on my experience. Before I dive in, I want to talk about another topic. ENDING FRIENDSHIPS that no longer serve you.
”Want to be friends?”
It took me up until my 30’s to fully understand the ‘why’ of my patterned behavior when it comes to ‘friends’. For starters I realized that I throw the term ‘Friend’ out way too much. Not everybody I come across is my actual friend. Some could be great business associates, clients or someone you would refer for their skills and talents. I was acting like I was collecting friends like Pokemon Go… “Gotta catch ‘em all!”. Call it being naive or too trusting, some of the women and men that have crossed my path in the past have been questionable at best.
The pandemic allowed me to see a couple friendships to their end points. In order to not over complicate what I’m saying, I said goodbye to a couple long lasting situations that some would call toxic. Another way to phrase it would be, saying goodbye to friendships that have run its course. Ending friendships does not have to be a messy endeavor. It can be as simple as waking up one morning and inhaling then exhaling and continuing on. I kept this same energy leading out of the worst of the pandemic and up until this point.
NO NEW FRIENDS….
Talk about a rollercoaster that has come off its hinges. FRIENDS!!! I blame Facebook for using the term so lightly. “Oh yah, they are my friend”…. “I sent you a friend request”…. “We became friends just a couple days ago.” Why couldn’t Facebook simply call it… “Connection Requests” instead? I’ve always been really big on words. People use words incorrectly often (I’m not exempt from this). I sometimes have to backtrack and Google the definitions of some of the words I say. Most times I end up laughing at myself because the definition is NOT the same as the one I made up in my head.
Loving me as I evolve…
We are always changing and to find those right people who give you to space to grow and discover yourself .
#TeamNoNewFriends - Back to the topic. I have my core set friends. The ones who have seen me through changes of life and still stick around loving me as I evolve. We are always changing and to find those right people who give you to space to grow and discover yourself are a dime a dozen. So for that I’m thankful! I have personally experienced more than a handful of people who have entered my life wanting to ride the ‘hype train’. They don’t know much about me as an individual but they see the things I do and get inspired to want to be around that type of energy. I think that’s the best way to describe it. Time and time again those mini situationships end as fast as they started. I used to feel slightly bad about cutting people off until I stopped feeling that way. Of course, there are always exceptions to this #TeamNoNewFriends agenda. Lol! So take my words as you may.
Protecting my energy and peace are #1 in my books. This is something I chose to not overlook anymore. Not everyone will fully align with me and that’s okay. There will be associates who will come in and out of my life for different reasons and seasons and just like water… the flow will continue on. Being at peace with this has changed me these last couple of months. I can honestly say… I’m happy! Absolutely no hard feelings to those who once were in the mix with my cosmic energy. All is well and I wish nothing but happiness and peace within the lives of those who were once close. Life is all about growing… and that’s what I will continue to do.
XOXO - Kariba
